What I Learned at my 30-Year High School Reunion

October 11th, 2018 by Kelly Kienzle

As my faithful readers know, I usually write about a topic on leadership growth and transformation. But last week I went to my 30-year high school reunion and unexpectedly learned something I want to share here. What I learned was this: Our strongest and longest-lasting relationships

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Empathy Is Not the Same as Agreeing

August 17th, 2018 by Kelly Kienzle

  Empathy is one of the 5 elements of emotional intelligence and, in my experience, the one we most struggle to understand and express at work. Empathy is when we understand the emotions and actions of others.  But so often we just cannot understand the rationale and

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Turning Vision into Visible

June 12th, 2018 by Kelly Kienzle

We all have visions.  We have visions of who we want to be, what we want to do, where we want to go and how we want to get there.  We love our visions and they comfort us to know that we have “a plan” and a sense

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What’s in Your Closet?

April 27th, 2018 by Kelly Kienzle

64 pounds of textiles each year. That’s how much clothing and other textiles like sheets and towels are thrown out each year by the average American. That is a stunning number that made me stop and think about how many pieces of clothing I buy each

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The Dangers of Consensus

March 19th, 2018 by Kelly Kienzle

  “If we could all just agree, then we could actually get something done around here.” We often hear this plea at our workplaces as we strive to find meaning in our work by hurrying to get to action. We believe that if we can just

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It’s Not Always A Personality Conflict

January 31st, 2018 by Kelly Kienzle

I have long been a believer that any conflict or frustration between colleagues is due to a difference in personality or temperament.  I believed that conflict came about because people could not communicate or understand each other well enough to see the other person’s perspective. A

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Self Judgments Leave Me Hungry

December 19th, 2017 by Kelly Kienzle

Most of us can agree with the following statement: “I am my harshest critic.” We know this about ourselves and we know how much grief and suffering it brings us.  When we step back from a situation where we believe we were insufficient, we notice that

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Appreciate the Now or Pursue the Dream?

October 31st, 2017 by Kelly Kienzle

So often we think we must do both. We believe we must slow down and appreciate what we have. Yet we also want to believe in and pursue our dreams. But does pursuing a dream mean that we are unhappy or dissatisfied with the present? On

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Why Rejection at Work Hurts

August 30th, 2017 by Kelly Kienzle

Do you remember a time when you were turned down for a promotion? Or how about a time when you applied for a job that you felt certain was a perfect fit for your skills and experience, only to find out that you were not selected?

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Other People’s Faces

June 28th, 2017 by Kelly Kienzle

“Now I become myself It’s taken time, many years and places. I have been dissolved and shaken, Worn other people’s faces….” That poem by May Sarton, for me, describes how I have often moved through my professional life. I have worked at several companies, across a

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