Already That Person

August 28th, 2019 by Kelly Kienzle

The Waiting Place - great illustration from Dr. Seuss - click to see it!

“I am already that person.” This is a new phrase that I re-discovered today as I was looking at some old notes from a few years ago.  I had been talking about a change that I wanted to make in my coaching style but was getting stuck.  My

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The Never-ending Comfort of Now

July 30th, 2019 by Kelly Kienzle

We live so much of our lives in the past or in the future. As leaders, as colleagues, as parents, as friends, we are constantly analyzing and replaying events from the past hour, the past week or the past year.  We also spend large amounts of time

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Your Next Work

June 26th, 2019 by Kelly Kienzle

The Questions As I consider my next birthday, the 50th one, I begin to indulge in fantasies of what and when my retirement will be. What will it look like?  How will I find meaning in what I do each day?  How do I approach this period

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Control and Autonomy with Confidence and Humility

May 7th, 2019 by Kelly Kienzle

The Scene The team’s leader frowned as she clicked forward through the coming months of her calendar. She could see the mounting number of changes that her team would soon face. She could feel her temples start to press inward on her brain as she considered

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Remember the Empty Chair

March 1st, 2019 by Kelly Kienzle

Internal politics, personal drama, and conflicting viewpoints are what most often drain our energy at work.  We feel dragged down by the heaviness of trying to keep the peace, find middle ground or push our agenda through the sticky cog wheel of internal decision-making. Finding Common Ground

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Appreciate the Past or Strive for a Better Future?

January 8th, 2019 by Kelly Kienzle

In January, work teams often discuss new goals for the coming year. This admirable task can have a dark side to it though.  Setting new goals can make us view the past year as “not enough” or as a short-lived victory, barely acknowledged. If we are

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Way Will Open… and Way Will Also Close

November 20th, 2018 by Kelly Kienzle

How often have you asked, wondered or worried whether you are spending your professional life in your most ideal way. How much do I enjoy my job? Am I really passionate about this field?  Is this what I want to do for the next 10 or

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What I Learned at my 30-Year High School Reunion

October 11th, 2018 by Kelly Kienzle

As my faithful readers know, I usually write about a topic on leadership growth and transformation. But last week I went to my 30-year high school reunion and unexpectedly learned something I want to share here. What I learned was this: Our strongest and longest-lasting relationships

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Empathy Is Not the Same as Agreeing

August 17th, 2018 by Kelly Kienzle

  Empathy is one of the 5 elements of emotional intelligence and, in my experience, the one we most struggle to understand and express at work. Empathy is when we understand the emotions and actions of others.  But so often we just cannot understand the rationale and

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Turning Vision into Visible

June 12th, 2018 by Kelly Kienzle

We all have visions.  We have visions of who we want to be, what we want to do, where we want to go and how we want to get there.  We love our visions and they comfort us to know that we have “a plan” and a sense

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